That's not it

I've been reading some research studies that suggest Autism follows a trajectory.  There are four or six trajectories depending on which research study you are reading.  What kind of bugged me about it was this one research study suggests that Caucasian mothers who are educated and, I guess, more involved will have children who bloom and come a long quite nicely.

I fit that description and yet my child doesn't fall into the bloomer category.  So, it has to be something different that makes the children bloom.  Suggesting it's the mother is just researcher bias.  Really, like I've mentioned before, whatever determines how far along these children develop is something that is internal to them. 

Just like us.

Whatever determines who will be successful and who will be a loser and who will be a successful loser is all on what's inside of us and what we're capable of.  It's the same with Autism.  Sure, there are external factors that could affect you such as abuse, for example.  Conversely, a very nurturing environment may help produce a child that's more adapted.  But that's also the same for the general population.

I guess, what I'm trying to get at is it's not on the mothers.  Your kid is going to be a spelling bee champ, or not.  They're going to be a football star, or not.  You can't make a spelling bee champ or a football star out of a kid who just doesn't have it no matter how hard you drill them.  Basically what it boils down to is that your child's potential is your child's potential.  It's a unique skillset they were born with--not a jello mold.  All you can do is love the child you have.